Conscious Relationship Training
Ten people, ten real stories about what brought them to CRT, what they were afraid of, and what changed.
01 / 10
Suki
"If you have not taken CRT, go for it. It will totally change your life from the inside out."
What brought her here
Suki had a problem she'd been carrying her whole life: she couldn't say no. Not firmly, not without guilt, not without then resenting herself for having said yes. She'd try to set a boundary, and then be the one to violate it. She'd feel the no clearly in her body β and say yes anyway, out of fear of losing people.
She came to CRT with one specific hope: to learn what a yes felt like in her body, and what a no felt like β and to trust it.
What she was afraid of
She wasn't afraid of the work, exactly. She trusted the facilitators. What she feared was the light being shone on something she wasn't ready to see.
"Sometimes you don't want to face something β and then the light is shone on that thing and you think, I don't think I'm ready to see it."
What kept her up at night
The resentment. The anxiety that came not from anger but from people-pleasing β saying yes, feeling her boundary crossed, and then going anxious instead of clear. The sense of being taken for granted, over and over, because she kept allowing it.
In the past I would have backed down, or been jittery and anxious. But I laid my boundary β and I felt that if I could do that with him, I can do that with anybody.
The moment something shifted
Thirty minutes before recording this testimonial, Suki's mother called five times. Before CRT she would have unplugged the phone. Instead she called back, spoke calmly, and suggested they talk properly on Monday.
"That wouldn't have happened in the past. Just saying that."
And a few weeks earlier, she'd ended a long-distance situationship with a man who wouldn't take responsibility β clearly, firmly, with a smiley face at the end of the message.
What changed
She'd done other programs β motivational, head-based, leaving her more unsettled than when she arrived. Talk therapy gave her more to think about, not less. CRT worked from the body first.
"I feel more empowered. I can tell people β in a nice way, not rudely β that it's a no. I can tell a client this isn't working for me. I can end something that isn't right and feel good about it. CRT has changed me from the inside out. That's all I can say."
In her own words, to anyone on the fence
"Just do it. Because you will be amazed at what happens to you at the end of it. It's a journey β there are flowers, there are rocks. But enjoy the process. It's worth every step."
02 / 10
Sharon
"I am not the same person I was. I'm so thrilled and grateful to say."
What brought her here
Sharon had spent her whole life not knowing what she wanted, how she felt, or what she needed. Her default was to people-please β to do anything to avoid conflict, at any cost to herself. She'd set boundaries and then be the first person to violate them. She moved through life in a constant state of anxiety, performing ease she didn't feel, agreeing to things her body was clearly saying no to.
She came to CRT hoping to learn how to regulate her nervous system. To feel safe and grounded in connection with herself and other people. To stop apologising for existing.
What she was afraid of
Being seen. Being vulnerable in a room full of strangers. The fear of success and the fear of failure sitting side by side β would she do the work? Could she?
"I had all these fears conjured up that we'd be put on the spot and intentionally made to feel a kind of discomfort."
What kept her up at night
The constant, exhausting performance of being "fine". The way she'd move through an entire day ignoring whether she was hungry, thirsty, tired β her body sending signals she'd learned to treat as irrelevant. Not occasionally, but as a way of life. She'd spent so long attending to everyone else's needs, she'd stopped being able to hear herself at all.
Now I'll feel a body yes or a body no, and respond without ending up in my head and overthinking.
The moment something shifted
Midway through the training, Sharon found herself jealous of another participant β someone who took up space effortlessly, who seemed completely at ease being seen. Her first instinct was to resent her.
She was told no. And then something cracked open.
"Rather than pointing a finger or judging β why don't I try to do these things too? And I did. Not only did I come to really admire her, she became a source of motivation and inspiration. And she's a friend now."
The pattern β shrink, resent, deflect β interrupted live in the room, with a real person, in real time. That's CRT.
What changed
She learned that triggers are teachers β information to meet with curiosity and stay with, even for just one breath.
"I welcome and give myself permission to pause first β and with compassionate curiosity, ask my body what it needs right now. I was so out of touch with basic body needs. Now it's become second nature. I'll feel a body yes or a body no, and respond without ending up in my head and overthinking."
In her own words, to anyone on the fence
"You just showed up as you were β raw, unfiltered. Everything was welcome in the space. We were accepted as we were, without judgment, imperfection and all. It was truly life-changing."
03 / 10
Prabhpreet
"CRT changes you from the inside out. I am feeling more like myself now."
What brought her here
Prabhpreet had been doing self-work for two years. She'd read the books, done the practices, built her capacity to sit with herself. She could name her patterns. She could see herself clearly.
And nothing was changing.
She came to CRT because she'd heard about shadow work and thought it might finally give her what the gentler approaches hadn't β a way to actually shift the patterns, not just observe them.
"I wanted to be able to practice conscious relationship with myself β and I didn't know how to change these patterns before CRT."
What she was afraid of
Everything unfamiliar brought fear. New situations, confrontation, taking up space, being seen as a bad person. She was hypervigilant β when she read the course rules she immediately feared: what if I break one of these and they kick me out?
"I had hesitation to confront people, hesitation to pass judgments, hesitation to look like a bad person, fear of rejection. I had all those things."
What kept her up at night
The resentment she carried β quietly, heavily β toward people she'd labelled as bad, controlling, unaware. The way nothing changed no matter how much she noticed, because noticing had never been enough.
"I was all busy labelling other people β and feeling that I didn't have any conscious person around me. I was living in that blame mindset before CRT."
The fears that were driving me my whole life β I have found a way to release them. I am feeling more like myself now.
The moment something shifted
Steph gave her a simple prompt: when you feel fear, ask your body β how can I show you that you are safe in this moment? Feel your feet on the ground. Tell yourself: we will figure this out.
"I was so focused on my fears and the negative parts. They helped me to look at the brighter side as well. And I can eventually increase that brighter side in my life β and it changed my life."
Between sessions, she took one of the practices home β and released resentment and anger she'd been storing for years.
"I have released a lot of hidden stuff which I had the potential to really dump on the other person and destroy the relationship. So I am very thankful."
What changed
Nothing had prepared her for the closeness β the real connection with facilitators and group members that made vulnerability feel possible rather than performed.
"The biggest piece for me is self-trust and ownership. I now honour my needs and understand my feelings more. I am able to feel free β I am more open than before. I can feel my presence. During the hard times, I now know how to release the hidden fears. I am feeling more normal now. I am feeling more like myself now."
In her own words, to anyone on the fence
"Just do it. Because you will be amazed at what happens to you at the end of it. It's a journey β there are flowers, there are rocks. But enjoy the process. You will not regret it."
04 / 10
Joel
"I thought it was this special little unique circumstance. I never saw how it was all connected."
What brought him here
Joel wasn't working. He was spending his savings and had zero motivation β to clean, to eat properly, to do much of anything. He'd wake up, play video games, go back to sleep. His girlfriend would come home, make food, clean up after him. He'd essentially made her his mother and didn't yet have the awareness to see it.
His relationships felt like they were in tatters. He was lonely. He had unexplainable mood swings that required constant repair. He felt lost and hopeless in a way he couldn't fully articulate.
What he wanted was simple, and impossible: perfect harmony. A relationship with no fighting, no triggers, no uncomfortable feelings, ever.
What he was afraid of
That he was too broken to ever have harmony with himself or anyone else.
What kept him up at night
The feeling that all his relationships were burned and destroyed. The loneliness of it. The sense that something was fundamentally wrong with him β not just with the circumstances, but with him.
I got a sense of self-acceptance β that the part of me that comes up in conflict is not some crazy thing that's going to destroy the world. It just comes and goes.
The moment something shifted
Joel came in thinking his problems were separate events β this relationship, that argument, this circumstance. Distinct and unconnected.
Then he saw the thread.
"I thought it was this special little unique circumstance. I thought events in my life and relationships were separate from each other and I never saw how it was all connected. When I did finally see, I was able to chunk off huge aspects of transformation β because now I could see the patterns, even when they came back around disguised as something else. And I finally knew how to tackle them."
What changed
He didn't get what he came for. He got something better.
"Who said I got what I expected? I didn't achieve perfect harmony β and I don't think anybody ever will. I got a sense of self-acceptance. That the part of me that comes up in conflict is completely natural, and everyone has it. It's not some crazy thing that's going to destroy the world. It just comes and goes."
In his own words, to anyone on the fence
"My girlfriend made me sign up. I was just so done β I surrendered. I trusted the teacher almost immediately. He told the truth, he didn't use unnecessary words, and he wasn't phony in any way."
05 / 10
Stefan
"We lose ourselves on our way back to ourselves."
What brought him here
Stefan had been a shadow of himself, lost in the dark. He'd been in a men's group connected to the CRT community and felt real somatic shifts there β something he hadn't experienced anywhere else. That feeling of something being genuinely possible gave him enough belief to take the next step.
He came in carrying victim mentality, self-sabotage, a habit of placing blame outward, and a relationship with fear that ran deep and shaped everything.
"I was lost. I heard this works, and logically this followed β it's reality-based, and that felt trustable."
What he was afraid of
Fear itself. His relationship with fear was nuanced and deep and requiring a lot of attention. He was afraid of staying small. Afraid of what it would mean to become too big.
"Are you staying small? Fear of not surviving if I became too big."
What kept him up at night
The difficulty of being with himself; fear of being alone. A cycle of stagnation he couldn't break β hard to get out of bed, hard to find a good mood, self-medicating to get through.
Momentum is the outcome. Constant progression. It's a build-up that just keeps going forward.
The moment something shifted
Stefan's shift wasn't a single moment β it was a gradual recognition of how and where he'd lost himself. He'd encounter someone's ideas about him and immediately absorb their story as if it was true. He'd disappear into their narrative and forget his own reality.
"Trying to find myself in others β when others project onto me, I think it means something about me and I get wrapped up in their stories. That's how I lose myself. Seeing that these are people who are mirrors β hearing them and seeing what projections are going on."
Once he could see that, he could stop taking the bait.
What changed
Stefan didn't have a dramatic before and after. What he found was something quieter and more sustainable: the feeling of forward movement where before there had only been loops.
"Momentum is the outcome. Constant progression. It's a build-up of momentum that just kind of continues going forward."
He stopped self-sabotaging. He stopped being guided by fear. He started getting closer to himself, and staying there.
In his own words, to anyone on the fence
"The work is reality-based. And that's what makes it trustable."
06 / 10
Steph
"I actually can't describe the completeness and complexity of how much I've changed, settled into myself and the world around me."
What brought her here
Steph came to CRT wanting to fix her boyfriend. He was drinking, raging, self-loathing, and hard to connect with β and she was exhausted from trying to make him see he was lovable. She felt deeply unloved and unlovable herself, trapped by her own hopes about partnership, too emotional and stressed to work or grow.
She was also, though she didn't fully know it yet, waiting to be rescued.
"I wanted all our relationship problems to go away. I wanted my boyfriend to stop drinking and projecting all his past BS onto everything."
What she was afraid of
Having to give up her dream of being rescued. Having to face a lot of grief and anger. Having to take responsibility for herself and her own experience.
What kept her up at night
Feeling like she just couldn't understand what was going on β why her boyfriend was so raging and hard to connect with. Why couldn't he just understand he was loved and surrender into it?
"We fought all the time and I felt sick about it. Made myself sick about it."
I went from anxious, bulldozing people-pleasing, sneaky control freak, to being an actually chill and self-possessed person. The performance is over β never again.
The moment something shifted
She was, in her own words, very particular and judgy about facilitators and therapists. But she was struck by the honesty and inner authority of the teacher β someone who told the truth, didn't use unnecessary words, and wasn't phony in any way.
So she surrendered. She did every weird thing that was asked of her.
"I learned more in 10 weeks than I ever did in years of therapy, and counselling training, and fifteen years of social work."
What changed
She's very happily single β which she never was before, having had back-to-back partners from the time she was 16 until she was 37. But that's the least of it.
"My relationships feel deeply good β I didn't even know they felt bad before. But the performance is over β never again. It's all me, all the time now. I'm the same person in every setting and it feels great."
She came in to fix someone else. She found herself instead. Now she teaches CRT.
In her own words, to anyone on the fence
"I trusted the process. I was pretty willing β mostly because I thought I was so bad and wrong, and that everyone else knew better than me. So when I saw people who'd been in the training for a while seem so self-assured and easy with each other, I just decided they knew something I didn't and dared to dive straight in."
07 / 10
Joshua
"Triggers now seem neat and fun β like a challenge to solve and gold to mine."
What brought him here
Joshua and his partner kept butting heads. They'd get into it β over what felt like nothing β and it would escalate into something neither of them wanted. He just wanted peace, and conversation that was less emotionally charged. He wanted to feel heard.
He came on a recommendation β someone he trusted had done it and spoken highly of it. He didn't know what he was walking into. He just knew what he'd tried so far wasn't working.
"It came so highly recommended that it was an obvious choice."
What he was afraid of
He couldn't have named it clearly at the time. What he didn't yet know was that beneath the communication problems was a worthiness wound running quietly through every interaction β a belief that he wasn't enough, shaping everything without his awareness.
"I didn't realize I had a worthiness issue. In fact, I thought I felt worthy. But all my actions were triggered to do with unworthiness that I didn't know I held."
What kept him up at night
Anxiety and powerlessness. A persistent lack of self-trust that left him feeling like he had no agency in his own relationships β or his own reactions.
Triggers now seem neat and fun β like a challenge to solve and gold to mine.
The moment something shifted
The revelation wasn't about his partner. It was about him. Once he could see the worthiness wound underneath the conflict, everything reoriented. Conflict stopped being something that happened to him and became something he could work with.
He describes a recent moment β an escalating conversation where his partner thought he was interrupting and he thought they were having a lovely chat. Before CRT that would have become a fight.
"We ended up noticing our triggers, identifying them, explaining our positions calmly β and got through it instead of it turning into a fight. Triggers now seem neat and fun. Like a challenge to solve and gold to mine."
What changed
He stopped blaming his partner and started owning his experience in real time β in the actual moment, not three days later when the clarity finally arrived.
"A lot more relaxed, less emotionally charged conversations. A lot more ownership."
In his own words, to anyone on the fence
"Most people could use it. But you can't force anyone to do this work. It would be helpful for a swath of people."
08 / 10
Kyra
"I came to realize so much of my life was a performance. I tried to be perfect because I thought perfect would be the thing that would get me love."
What brought her here
Kyra spent years contorting herself to fit in, suppressing her needs, her opinions, and her truth for the sake of connection and belonging.
"I was so disconnected from what my needs were that I honestly didn't even know I had any."
Sheβd spent years performing warmth rather than feeling it. The kindness she projected outward was in part a costume β and underneath it was someone who didn't yet believe she was allowed to take up space, be seen, or want things without apologizing.
What she was afraid of
"When I came into CRT, I was afraid to let my anger out - to let myself be seen in the mess. I was certain my anger would be greater and scarier than anyone elseβs. Turns out, to my delight, Iβm not that special! What I found under that anger was a deep well of my vitality, power and surprisingly, joy. It turned out that I was more afraid of my power than anything else."
What kept her up at night
She was deeply insecure - overthinking conversations, picking apart what she'd said, how it landed, what people might have thought.
CRT helped me find my worth, know and understand my needs, and feel the confidence to express myself. It also helped me deepen my capacity to sit with uncomfortable feelings and not make that mean anything.
The moment something shifted
Kyra realized she'd weaponized her gifts against herself. Her capacity to care, to attune, to hold space β all of it turned inward as hypervigilance, and outward as self-erasure. She'd become a nurse so she could caretake everyone, all the time, in a profession that would ask more of her than she had capacity to give.
"This resulted in a host of autoimmune health flares β my body was saying no but I wasn't listening."
CRT gave her permission to stop performing. To let the judgmental, opinionated, messy parts of herself exist in a room full of people β and find out she was still accepted.
"I felt the permission slip in the training to let all of that belong."
What changed
"When I'm most authentic and myself β without the people-pleasing β I'm way more magnetic to my actual people. With a lot more access to my boundaries and my no. I just don't stay in places or with people that I don't want to be with. I used to sit through uncomfortable conversations that weren't for me. Now I don't. I feel liberated and alive. Iβve done 6 rounds of CRT so far, and each time my confidence grows."
In her own words, to anyone on the fence
"CRT is for anyone who's putting their needs last. Anyone who needs help speaking their truth. Anyone who's afraid of their anger, afraid of rejection. Anyone who actually wants to access their full vitality and humanness. Anyone who has a desire to live a life of truth and radical authenticity. That's who this is for."
09 / 10
Mariam
"I wanted to be rewired for connection. I wanted relief from the pain of feeling like I couldn't be with people."
What brought her here
Mariam wasn't connecting. Things weren't clicking. She felt unsafe and inauthentic in relationships β defaulting to avoidance and isolation, physically and emotionally distancing herself from family, friends, housemates.
She came to CRT wanting to be rewired β to stop experiencing people as a threat, and to find out if real connection was actually possible for her, or whether she was simply built differently.
"I wanted to feel safe in relationship. I was always in a place of reactivity and powerlessness. I didn't want to feel like people were a threat or unsafe or couldn't be trusted."
What she was afraid of
That she was unworthy of connection. That there was a standard she needed to meet before she could deserve to exist in relationship.
"I carried a wound of being unworthy of connection. I thought there was a way I needed to show up or something to achieve in order to be accepted β feeling like I needed to be wise and bubbly all the time, or have fun stories to share. Just being myself wasn't enough."
What kept her up at night
When the depression had her sleeping too much, the hyperarousal would swing the other way β lying awake with a hopeless anxiety she couldn't reason her way out of.
"Sleepless with the story that I'm destined to be alone forever. Anxiety that I'd never be able to break through that wall."
I have moments of such pure gratitude that I've found people and places where I belong β and that I can feel acceptance even where I don't fit. I don't need to change or contort who I am.
The moment something shifted
Mariam had believed she could fix everything from inside her own head. She felt centred and grounded in meditation β but the moment she was with other people the wall came back up. The connection she'd felt alone evaporated in contact with others.
The realisation: she couldn't think her way into belonging. She had to go through people to get there.
"I used to think I could fix everything with my mind, fix all my problems from my meditation cushion. But the moment I was with other people the wall would come right back up. The work and the repair was through relationship and action. I had to go through the portal of fear to actually do it β to overcome it."
What changed
She found people β real ones β and places where she fit. And more surprisingly, she began to feel accepted even in places where she didn't fit.
"So many pathways have opened. I feel like-minded, soul-aligned connections that I didn't believe were possible for me."
In her own words, to anyone on the fence
"We're all fragmented in some way, and this work is all about making us whole. It's for all motivated and courageous humans who want to heal."
10 / 10
Simmy
"I'm more comfortable with my decision-making now. I'm more introspective and aware of my patterns and shadows."
What brought her here
Simmy had been on a self-growth journey for years β meditating, experimenting, seeking real feedback. She was drawn to CRT specifically because she'd heard people would tell you the truth there, even the negative parts. That was unusual, and just what she wanted.
Her daily life was run by anxiety. Short-term decisions were impulsive and reactive. Long-term decisions left her completely immobilised, paralysed by options and the fear of getting it wrong.
"I found it intriguing and appealing β that people will tell you the truth and be very honest, even about negative things."
What she was afraid of
Making the wrong decision and losing everything as a result. The consequences felt enormous and irrational in equal measure.
"I was afraid of making the wrong decision and problems resulting from that β the insecurity. Always worrying about potential consequences and losing everything. A lot of irrational fears."
What kept her up at night
A mind that wouldn't stop. Every problem running on a loop with no resolution in sight.
"My mind was always very busy with problems and options."
I'm better at reflecting inwards instead of looking for external problems and for resolution outside myself.
The moment something shifted
Most of the modalities Simmy had encountered suppressed the negative and amplified the positive. CRT did the opposite β it welcomed the shadow, the doubt, the harder truth. For someone who'd been told her whole life to focus on the bright side, the permission to look at the dark side was revelatory.
She also discovered something practical: she could sit with her body instead of just reacting from it.
"For the short-term decisions I'm able to sit with my body and emotions instead of just reacting β and then make decisions based on what I actually want instead of an emotional reaction made quickly."
What changed
She's still a work in progress β she'll say that herself. But something fundamental has shifted: she's stopped looking outward for answers and started finding them inside herself. There's not just self-doubt in there, there's actual, usable information.
"I'm more comfortable with my decision-making now. I'm more introspective and aware of my patterns and shadows. I'm better at reflecting inwards instead of looking for external problems and for resolution outside myself."
In her own words, to anyone on the fence
"Everybody could use it. But not everybody is open to it."
Conscious Relationship Training Β· Case Studies
Real People. Real Change.
Ten stories about what brought them to CRT and what changed.
01 / 10
Suki
"If you have not taken CRT, go for it. It will totally change your life from the inside out."
What brought her here
Suki had a problem she'd been carrying her whole life: she couldn't say no. Not firmly, not without guilt, not without then resenting herself for having said yes. She'd try to set a boundary, and then be the one to violate it. She'd feel the no clearly in her body β and say yes anyway, out of fear of losing people.
She came to CRT with one specific hope: to learn what a yes felt like in her body, and what a no felt like β and to trust it.
What She Feared
She wasn't afraid of the work, exactly. She trusted the facilitators. What she feared was the light being shone on something she wasn't ready to see.
"Sometimes you don't want to face something β and then the light is shone on that thing and you think, I don't think I'm ready to see it."
What Was Keeping Her Up At Night
The resentment. The anxiety that came not from anger but from people-pleasing β saying yes, feeling her boundary crossed, and then going anxious instead of clear. The sense of being taken for granted, over and over, because she kept allowing it.
In the past I would have backed down, or been jittery and anxious. But I laid my boundary β and I felt that if I could do that with him, I can do that with anybody.
When Things Started to Feel Different
Thirty minutes before recording this testimonial, Suki's mother called five times. Before CRT she would have unplugged the phone. Instead she called back, spoke calmly, and suggested they talk properly on Monday.
"That wouldn't have happened in the past. Just saying that."
And a few weeks earlier, she'd ended a long-distance situationship with a man who wouldn't take responsibility β clearly, firmly, with a smiley face at the end of the message.
What changed
She'd done other programs β motivational, head-based, leaving her more unsettled than when she arrived. Talk therapy gave her more to think about, not less. CRT worked from the body first.
"I feel more empowered. I can tell people β in a nice way, not rudely β that it's a no. I can tell a client this isn't working for me. I can end something that isn't right and feel good about it. CRT has changed me from the inside out. That's all I can say."
In her own words, to anyone on the fence
"Just do it. Because you will be amazed at what happens to you at the end of it. It's a journey β there are flowers, there are rocks. But enjoy the process. It's worth every step."
CRT Case Study: Suki
02 / 10
Sharon
"I am not the same person I was. I'm so thrilled and grateful to say."
What brought her here
Sharon had spent her whole life not knowing what she wanted, how she felt, or what she needed. Her default was to people-please β to do anything to avoid conflict, at any cost to herself. She'd set boundaries and then be the first person to violate them. She moved through life in a constant state of anxiety, performing ease she didn't feel, agreeing to things her body was clearly saying no to.
She came to CRT hoping to learn how to regulate her nervous system. To feel safe and grounded in connection with herself and other people. To stop apologising for existing.
What She Feared
Being seen. Being vulnerable in a room full of strangers. The fear of success and the fear of failure sitting side by side β would she do the work? Could she?
"I had all these fears conjured up that we'd be put on the spot and intentionally made to feel a kind of discomfort."
What Was Keeping Her Up At Night
The constant, exhausting performance of being "fine". The way she'd move through an entire day ignoring whether she was hungry, thirsty, tired β her body sending signals she'd learned to treat as irrelevant. Not occasionally, but as a way of life. She'd spent so long attending to everyone else's needs, she'd stopped being able to hear herself at all.
Now I'll feel a body yes or a body no, and respond without ending up in my head and overthinking.
When Things Started to Feel Different
Midway through the training, Sharon found herself jealous of another participant β someone who took up space effortlessly, who seemed completely at ease being seen. Her first instinct was to resent her.
She was told no. And then something cracked open.
"Rather than pointing a finger or judging β why don't I try to do these things too? And I did. Not only did I come to really admire her, she became a source of motivation and inspiration. And she's a friend now."
The pattern β shrink, resent, deflect β interrupted live in the room, with a real person, in real time. That's CRT.
What changed
She learned that triggers are teachers β information to meet with curiosity and stay with, even for just one breath.
"I welcome and give myself permission to pause first β and with compassionate curiosity, ask my body what it needs right now. I was so out of touch with basic body needs. Now it's become second nature. I'll feel a body yes or a body no, and respond without ending up in my head and overthinking."
In her own words, to anyone on the fence
"You just showed up as you were β raw, unfiltered. Everything was welcome in the space. We were accepted as we were, without judgment, imperfection and all. It was truly life-changing."
CRT Case Study: Sharon
03 / 10
Prabhpreet
"CRT changes you from the inside out. I am feeling more like myself now."
What brought her here
Prabhpreet had been doing self-work for two years. She'd read the books, done the practices, built her capacity to sit with herself. She could name her patterns. She could see herself clearly.
And nothing was changing.
She came to CRT because she'd heard about shadow work and thought it might finally give her what the gentler approaches hadn't β a way to actually shift the patterns, not just observe them.
"I wanted to be able to practice conscious relationship with myself β and I didn't know how to change these patterns before CRT."
What She Feared
Everything unfamiliar brought fear. New situations, confrontation, taking up space, being seen as a bad person. She was hypervigilant β when she read the course rules she immediately feared: what if I break one of these and they kick me out?
"I had hesitation to confront people, hesitation to pass judgments, hesitation to look like a bad person, fear of rejection. I had all those things."
What Was Keeping Her Up At Night
The resentment she carried β quietly, heavily β toward people she'd labelled as bad, controlling, unaware. The way nothing changed no matter how much she noticed, because noticing had never been enough.
"I was all busy labelling other people β and feeling that I didn't have any conscious person around me. I was living in that blame mindset before CRT."
The fears that were driving me my whole life β I have found a way to release them. I am feeling more like myself now.
When Things Started to Feel Different
Steph gave her a simple prompt: when you feel fear, ask your body β how can I show you that you are safe in this moment? Feel your feet on the ground. Tell yourself: we will figure this out.
"I was so focused on my fears and the negative parts. They helped me to look at the brighter side as well. And I can eventually increase that brighter side in my life β and it changed my life."
Between sessions, she took one of the practices home β and released resentment and anger she'd been storing for years.
"I have released a lot of hidden stuff which I had the potential to really dump on the other person and destroy the relationship. So I am very thankful."
What changed
Nothing had prepared her for the closeness β the real connection with facilitators and group members that made vulnerability feel possible rather than performed.
"The biggest piece for me is self-trust and ownership. I now honour my needs and understand my feelings more. I am able to feel free β I am more open than before. I can feel my presence. During the hard times, I now know how to release the hidden fears. I am feeling more normal now. I am feeling more like myself now."
In her own words, to anyone on the fence
"Just do it. Because you will be amazed at what happens to you at the end of it. It's a journey β there are flowers, there are rocks. But enjoy the process. You will not regret it."
CRT Case Study: Prabhpreet
04 / 10
Joel
"I thought it was this special little unique circumstance. I never saw how it was all connected."
What brought him here
Joel wasn't working. He was spending his savings and had zero motivation β to clean, to eat properly, to do much of anything. He'd wake up, play video games, go back to sleep. His girlfriend would come home, make food, clean up after him. He'd essentially made her his mother and didn't yet have the awareness to see it.
His relationships felt like they were in tatters. He was lonely. He had unexplainable mood swings that required constant repair. He felt lost and hopeless in a way he couldn't fully articulate.
What he wanted was simple, and impossible: perfect harmony. A relationship with no fighting, no triggers, no uncomfortable feelings, ever.
What He Feared
That he was too broken to ever have harmony with himself or anyone else.
What Was Keeping Him Up At Night
The feeling that all his relationships were burned and destroyed. The loneliness of it. The sense that something was fundamentally wrong with him β not just with the circumstances, but with him.
I got a sense of self-acceptance β that the part of me that comes up in conflict is not some crazy thing that's going to destroy the world. It just comes and goes.
When Things Started to Feel Different
Joel came in thinking his problems were separate events β this relationship, that argument, this circumstance. Distinct and unconnected.
Then he saw the thread.
"I thought it was this special little unique circumstance. I thought events in my life and relationships were separate from each other and I never saw how it was all connected. When I did finally see, I was able to chunk off huge aspects of transformation β because now I could see the patterns, even when they came back around disguised as something else. And I finally knew how to tackle them."
What changed
He didn't get what he came for. He got something better.
"Who said I got what I expected? I didn't achieve perfect harmony β and I don't think anybody ever will. I got a sense of self-acceptance. That the part of me that comes up in conflict is completely natural, and everyone has it. It's not some crazy thing that's going to destroy the world. It just comes and goes."
In his own words, to anyone on the fence
"My girlfriend made me sign up. I was just so done β I surrendered. I trusted the teacher almost immediately. He told the truth, he didn't use unnecessary words, and he wasn't phony in any way."
CRT Case Study: Joel
05 / 10
Stefan
"We lose ourselves on our way back to ourselves."
What brought him here
Stefan had been a shadow of himself, lost in the dark. He'd been in a men's group connected to the CRT community and felt real somatic shifts there β something he hadn't experienced anywhere else. That feeling of something being genuinely possible gave him enough belief to take the next step.
He came in carrying victim mentality, self-sabotage, a habit of placing blame outward, and a relationship with fear that ran deep and shaped everything.
"I was lost. I heard this works, and logically this followed β it's reality-based, and that felt trustable."
What He Feared
Fear itself. His relationship with fear was nuanced and deep and requiring a lot of attention. He was afraid of staying small. Afraid of what it would mean to become too big.
"Are you staying small? Fear of not surviving if I became too big."
What Was Keeping Him Up At Night
The difficulty of being with himself; fear of being alone. A cycle of stagnation he couldn't break β hard to get out of bed, hard to find a good mood, self-medicating to get through.
Momentum is the outcome. Constant progression. It's a build-up that just keeps going forward.
When Things Started to Feel Different
Stefan's shift wasn't a single moment β it was a gradual recognition of how and where he'd lost himself. He'd encounter someone's ideas about him and immediately absorb their story as if it was true. He'd disappear into their narrative and forget his own reality.
"Trying to find myself in others β when others project onto me, I think it means something about me and I get wrapped up in their stories. That's how I lose myself. Seeing that these are people who are mirrors β hearing them and seeing what projections are going on."
Once he could see that, he could stop taking the bait.
What changed
Stefan didn't have a dramatic before and after. What he found was something quieter and more sustainable: the feeling of forward movement where before there had only been loops.
"Momentum is the outcome. Constant progression. It's a build-up of momentum that just kind of continues going forward."
He stopped self-sabotaging. He stopped being guided by fear. He started getting closer to himself, and staying there.
In his own words, to anyone on the fence
"We lose ourselves on our way back to ourselves. That quote hits for me."
CRT Case Study: Stefan
06 / 10
Steph
"I actually can't describe the completeness and complexity of how much I've changed, settled into myself and the world around me."
What brought her here
Steph came to CRT wanting to fix her boyfriend. He was drinking, raging, self-loathing, and hard to connect with β and she was exhausted from trying to make him see he was lovable. She felt deeply unloved and unlovable herself, trapped by her own hopes about partnership, too emotional and stressed to work or grow.
She was also, though she didn't fully know it yet, waiting to be rescued.
"I wanted all our relationship problems to go away. I wanted my boyfriend to stop drinking and projecting all his past BS onto everything."
What She Feared
Having to give up her dream of being rescued. Having to face a lot of grief and anger. Having to take responsibility for herself and her own experience.
What Was Keeping Her Up At Night
Feeling like she just couldn't understand what was going on β why her boyfriend was so raging and hard to connect with. Why couldn't he just understand he was loved and surrender into it?
"We fought all the time and I felt sick about it. Made myself sick about it."
I went from anxious, bulldozing people-pleasing, sneaky control freak, to being an actually chill and self-possessed person. The performance is over β never again.
When Things Started to Feel Different
She was, in her own words, very particular and judgy about facilitators and therapists. But she was struck by the honesty and inner authority of the teacher β someone who told the truth, didn't use unnecessary words, and wasn't phony in any way.
So she surrendered. She did every weird thing that was asked of her.
"I learned more in 10 weeks than I ever did in years of therapy, and counselling training, and fifteen years of social work."
What changed
She's very happily single β which she never was before, having had back-to-back partners from the time she was 16 until she was 37. But that's the least of it.
"My relationships feel deeply good β I didn't even know they felt bad before. But the performance is over β never again. It's all me, all the time now. I'm the same person in every setting and it feels great."
She came in to fix someone else. She found herself instead. Now she teaches CRT.
In her own words, to anyone on the fence
"I trusted the process. I was pretty willing β mostly because I thought I was so bad and wrong, and that everyone else knew better than me. So when I saw people who'd been in the training for a while seem so self-assured and easy with each other, I just decided they knew something I didn't and dared to dive straight in."
CRT Case Study: Steph
07 / 10
Joshua
"Triggers now seem neat and fun β like a challenge to solve and gold to mine."
What brought him here
Joshua and his partner kept butting heads. They'd get into it β over what felt like nothing β and it would escalate into something neither of them wanted. He just wanted peace, and conversation that was less emotionally charged. He wanted to feel heard.
He came on a recommendation β someone he trusted had done it and spoken highly of it. He didn't know what he was walking into. He just knew what he'd tried so far wasn't working.
"It came so highly recommended that it was an obvious choice."
What He Feared
He couldn't have named it clearly at the time. What he didn't yet know was that beneath the communication problems was a worthiness wound running quietly through every interaction β a belief that he wasn't enough, shaping everything without his awareness.
"I didn't realize I had a worthiness issue. In fact, I thought I felt worthy. But all my actions were triggered to do with unworthiness that I didn't know I held."
What Was Keeping Him Up At Night
Anxiety and powerlessness. A persistent lack of self-trust that left him feeling like he had no agency in his own relationships β or his own reactions.
Triggers now seem neat and fun β like a challenge to solve and gold to mine.
When Things Started to Feel Different
The revelation wasn't about his partner. It was about him. Once he could see the worthiness wound underneath the conflict, everything reoriented. Conflict stopped being something that happened to him and became something he could work with.
He describes a recent moment β an escalating conversation where his partner thought he was interrupting and he thought they were having a lovely chat. Before CRT that would have become a fight.
"We ended up noticing our triggers, identifying them, explaining our positions calmly β and got through it instead of it turning into a fight. Triggers now seem neat and fun. Like a challenge to solve and gold to mine."
What changed
He stopped blaming his partner and started owning his experience in real time β in the actual moment, not three days later when the clarity finally arrived.
"A lot more relaxed, less emotionally charged conversations. A lot more ownership."
In his own words, to anyone on the fence
"Most people could use it. But you can't force anyone to do this work. It would be helpful for a swath of people."
CRT Case Study: Joshua
08 / 10
Kyra
"I came to realize so much of my life was a performance. I tried to be perfect because I thought perfect would be the thing that would get me love."
What brought her here
Kyra spent years contorting herself to fit in, suppressing her needs, her opinions, and her truth for the sake of connection and belonging.
"I was so disconnected from what my needs were that I honestly didn't even know I had any."
Sheβd spent years performing warmth rather than feeling it. The kindness she projected outward was in part a costume β and underneath it was someone who didn't yet believe she was allowed to take up space, be seen, or want things without apologizing.
What She Feared
"When I came into CRT, I was afraid to let my anger out β to let myself be seen in the mess. I was certain my anger would be greater and scarier than anyone elseβs. Turns out, to my delight, Iβm not that special! What I found under that anger was a deep well of my vitality, power and surprisingly, joy. It turned out that I was more afraid of my power than anything else."
What Was Keeping Her Up At Night
She was deeply insecure - overthinking conversations, picking apart what she'd said, how it landed, what people might have thought.
CRT helped me find my worth, know and understand my needs, and feel the confidence to express myself. It also helped me deepen my capacity to sit with uncomfortable feelings and not make that mean anything.
When Things Started to Feel Different
Kyra realized she'd weaponized her gifts against herself. Her capacity to care, to attune, to hold space β all of it turned inward as hypervigilance, and outward as self-erasure. She'd become a nurse so she could caretake everyone, all the time, in a profession that would ask more of her than she had capacity to give.
"This resulted in a host of autoimmune health flares β my body was saying no but I wasn't listening."
CRT gave her permission to stop performing. To let the judgmental, opinionated, messy parts of herself exist in a room full of people β and find out she was still accepted.
"I felt the permission slip in the training to let all of that belong."
What changed
"When I'm most authentic and myself β without the people-pleasing β I'm way more magnetic to my actual people. With a lot more access to my boundaries and my no. I just don't stay in places or with people that I don't want to be with. I used to sit through uncomfortable conversations that weren't for me. Now I don't. I feel liberated and alive. Iβve done 6 rounds of CRT so far, and each time my confidence grows."
In her own words, to anyone on the fence
"CRT is for anyone who's putting their needs last. Anyone who needs help speaking their truth. Anyone who's afraid of their anger, afraid of rejection. Anyone who actually wants to access their full vitality and humanness. Anyone who has a desire to live a life of truth and radical authenticity. That's who this is for."
CRT Case Study: Kyra
09 / 10
Mariam
"I wanted to be rewired for connection. I wanted relief from the pain of feeling like I couldn't be with people."
What brought her here
Mariam wasn't connecting. Things weren't clicking. She felt unsafe and inauthentic in relationships β defaulting to avoidance and isolation, physically and emotionally distancing herself from family, friends, housemates.
She came to CRT wanting to be rewired β to stop experiencing people as a threat, and to find out if real connection was actually possible for her, or whether she was simply built differently.
"I wanted to feel safe in relationship. I was always in a place of reactivity and powerlessness. I didn't want to feel like people were a threat or unsafe or couldn't be trusted."
What She Feared
That she was unworthy of connection. That there was a standard she needed to meet before she could deserve to exist in relationship.
"I carried a wound of being unworthy of connection. I thought there was a way I needed to show up or something to achieve in order to be accepted β feeling like I needed to be wise and bubbly all the time, or have fun stories to share. Just being myself wasn't enough."
What Was Keeping Her Up At Night
When the depression had her sleeping too much, the hyperarousal would swing the other way β lying awake with a hopeless anxiety she couldn't reason her way out of.
"Sleepless with the story that I'm destined to be alone forever. Anxiety that I'd never be able to break through that wall."
I have moments of such pure gratitude that I've found people and places where I belong β and that I can feel acceptance even where I don't fit. I don't need to change or contort who I am.
When Things Started to Feel Different
Mariam had believed she could fix everything from inside her own head. She felt centred and grounded in meditation β but the moment she was with other people the wall came back up. The connection she'd felt alone evaporated in contact with others.
The realisation: she couldn't think her way into belonging. She had to go through people to get there.
"I used to think I could fix everything with my mind, fix all my problems from my meditation cushion. But the moment I was with other people the wall would come right back up. The work and the repair was through relationship and action. I had to go through the portal of fear to actually do it β to overcome it."
What changed
She found people β real ones β and places where she fit. And more surprisingly, she began to feel accepted even in places where she didn't fit.
"So many pathways have opened. I feel like-minded, soul-aligned connections that I didn't believe were possible for me."
In her own words, to anyone on the fence
"We're all fragmented in some way, and this work is all about making us whole. It's for all motivated and courageous humans who want to heal."
CRT Case Study: Mariam
10 / 10
Simmy
"I'm more comfortable with my decision-making now. I'm more introspective and aware of my patterns and shadows."
What brought her here
Simmy had been on a self-growth journey for years β meditating, experimenting, seeking real feedback. She was drawn to CRT specifically because she'd heard people would tell you the truth there, even the negative parts. That was unusual, and just what she wanted.
Her daily life was run by anxiety. Short-term decisions were impulsive and reactive. Long-term decisions left her completely immobilised, paralysed by options and the fear of getting it wrong.
"I found it intriguing and appealing β that people will tell you the truth and be very honest, even about negative things."
What She Feared
Making the wrong decision and losing everything as a result. The consequences felt enormous and irrational in equal measure.
"I was afraid of making the wrong decision and problems resulting from that β the insecurity. Always worrying about potential consequences and losing everything. A lot of irrational fears."
What Was Keeping Her Up At Night
A mind that wouldn't stop. Every problem running on a loop with no resolution in sight.
"My mind was always very busy with problems and options."
I'm better at reflecting inwards instead of looking for external problems and for resolution outside myself.
When Things Started to Feel Different
Most of the modalities Simmy had encountered suppressed the negative and amplified the positive. CRT did the opposite β it welcomed the shadow, the doubt, the harder truth. For someone who'd been told her whole life to focus on the bright side, the permission to look at the dark side was revelatory.
She also discovered something practical: she could sit with her body instead of just reacting from it.
"For the short-term decisions I'm able to sit with my body and emotions instead of just reacting β and then make decisions based on what I actually want instead of an emotional reaction made quickly."
What changed
She's still a work in progress β she'll say that herself. But something fundamental has shifted: she's stopped looking outward for answers and started finding them inside herself. Thereβs not just self-doubt in there, thereβs actual, usable information.
"I'm more comfortable with my decision-making now. I'm more introspective and aware of my patterns and shadows. I'm better at reflecting inwards instead of looking for external problems and for resolution outside myself."
In her own words, to anyone on the fence
"Everybody could use it. But not everybody is open to it."
CRT Case Study: Simmy
