STEPH HUNTER
Radical Honesty Coach
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&Â METAPHYSICAL COUNSELLOR
STEPH HUNTER
Â
Radical Honesty Coach
& METAPHYSICAL COUNSELLOR
HONESTY + CONNECTION + PURPOSE
Learn what to say and how to say it when the conversation is hard and the stakes are high.Â
Whether you have one conversation you've been putting off or a lifelong pattern of swallowing the truth, the work is the same: to get honest with yourself and the people who need to hear it, without sacrificing the connections you're trying to protect. I give you a framework for the hard moments, and a meaningful connection with Something Greater to lean on through the process.
Sometimes you just need to figure out what to say — to one person, about one thing — and you need help doing it. A single 90 minute session gives you a framework for that conversation, and a way to hold onto yourself and your connections through the process — before, during and after.
Book a single session on EveryExpert âž”
Or keep reading — the more you know about how I work, the more useful our time together will be.
If you have a habit of swallowing the truth, a fear of being too much, or other relational patterns that are costing you, that points to something deeper. Build your capacity for honesty from the inside out, and cultivate your connection with Something Greater as a real source of support.
Apply to work with me over multiple sessions âž”
Or keep reading to find out more about me and see if this is the right fit for you.
HONESTY + CONNECTION
Learn what to say and how to say it when the conversation is hard and the stakes are high.Â
Whether you have one conversation you've been putting off or a lifelong pattern of swallowing the truth, the work is the same: to get honest with yourself and the people who need to hear it, without sacrificing the connections you're trying to protect. I give you a framework for the hard moments, and a meaningful connection with Something Greater to lean on through the process.
Sometimes you just need to figure out what to say — to one person, about one thing — and you need help doing it. A single 90 minute session gives you a framework for that conversation, and a way to hold onto yourself and your connections through the process — before, during and after.
Book a single session on EveryExpert âž”
Or keep reading — the more you know about how I work, the more useful our time together will be.
If you have a habit of swallowing the truth, a fear of being too much, or other relational patterns that are costing you, that points to something deeper. Build your capacity for honesty from the inside out, and cultivate your connection with Something Greater as a real source of support.
Apply to work with me over multiple sessions âž”
Or keep reading to find out more about me and see if this is the right fit for you.
You already know this life is bigger than the one you've been living. Let's find out what's holding you back.
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People mistake confidence for power, and miss out on something deeper: inner authority. The real deal — power that can't be taken. A sense of self that doesn't collapse under pressure, or chase approval, or abandon you when you need it most. And it's something you can cultivate from just one small seed. Download this free guide for the key → plus a body practice that might surprise you.
You already know this life is bigger than the one you've been living. Let's find out what's holding you back.
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People mistake confidence for power, and miss out on something deeper: inner authority.Â
The real deal — a sense of self that doesn't collapse under pressure, or chase approval, or abandon you when you need it most.
And you can cultivate it from just one tiny seed. Download this free guide for the key ➔ plus a body practice that might surprise you.
THE SOURCE OF MY OWN AUTHORITY
It's a long story...and it's personal.
I didn't come to this work because I was curious — I came because I was in a state. Specifically, I was on a bender after walking in on my hopelessly toxic then-boyfriend cheating on me in an exceptionally grotesque, in-your-face kind of way.
While he went off to rehab in shame, I spiraled alone in our condo. And somewhere between the drinking, the wailing, and the Ben & Jerry's, I found my teacher.
I didn't know anything about Phil T. Mistlberger or his work. I just knew he was the latest trend my spiritual woo-woo friend had mentioned the week before, and I happened to remember his weird name (the T is for Teertha).
After tracking him down on a relationships podcast, I booked a private session — and at the end, he suggested I join his 16 week shadow work intensive, Conscious Relationship Training (CRT).
The decision was easy: I was skyrocketing in my career at the time and making more money than I'd ever seen, so spending two thousand dollars to punish (and possibly fix!) my boyfriend was a no-brainer. I was smugly confident he was the whole problem, and that I was a saint for putting up with him.
Spoiler alert: I was wrong.
Over those 16 weeks, our explosive romance came to an appropriately messy conclusion, and I was afforded the opportunity to look — and really see — the unconscious patterns that were running my life and my relationships.
So I looked, with my whole self, and I saw.
And what I saw was... g h a s t l y.
Everywhere I turned, there was just more me: every rejected aspect, every desperately fabricated part of my personality, every pattern I'd blamed on the wrongness of every partner I'd ever chosen.
I saw that for every experience I'd ever had, I was the only throughline. The only thing all my difficulties had in common was me.
Like jumping off a cliff
That realization was liberating, but it also left me wind-ravaged, with my stomach in my throat and the whole world hurtling toward me top speed. It was the kind of empowerment that found me weeping in my car a lot, raging to death metal and Dolly Parton — swinging from grief at the wasted years, to marveling at all the untapped potential.
I was finally vividly alive; I felt inspired, enraged, crushingly sad and utterly lovely — all at the same time. The existential floodgates were open, and I was hooked.
Those 16 weeks of CRT turned into hundreds, with countless hours of upper level work and teacher training before I began leading sessions in 2018. Around the same time, I surprised myself by being initiated into Phil's mystery school (Temple of Anubis) and going down an esoteric rabbit hole.
That's where things got strange. The combination of intensive self-discovery, undeniable magic, and relentless synchronicities quickly became too much. I was "losing my mind" — consciously and on purpose — and I didn't have the inner infrastructure to hold what I was encountering.
So I stepped back, and built my capacity to hold more of the fullness of life — and the magic of it too.
That's what I help people do today.
I've since attained the temple's Inner Order and a master's degree in Metaphysical Sciences — which I mention to emphasize that I see the world through a metaphysical lens, and my work reflects that. The spiritual dimension of personal growth isn't decorative for me, it's one of three load-bearing pillars.
The other two are body and mind. Body (read: nervous system) — whose capacity I had to build just to hold my reality — and mind (conscious + unconscious) — whose shadowy recesses I had to expose to see my reality in the first place. These two pillars form the basis of our programs and the Somatic Shadow Work method at Wholehearted Loving.
I live for the moment people realize they aren't limited to the confines of the defended, reactive, fearful version of themselves, and they glimpse something greater: an eternal and omnipresent source of power and support, conspiring for their benefit. That's what I'm here for — to help guide you to that Something Greater, inside and out.
If part of you recognizes this, and wants it — and doesn't mind my bluntly honest delivery — then we're probably going to get along just fine.
Proof of concept:
Ten years later, I am SO GLAD my old boyfriend did what he did, and that I listened when my woo-woo friend was prattling on about her spiritual crap. It was the Universe at play, in service of my highest good, leading me here — to my Work, my teacher, and my people.
I'm eternally grateful I had the wherewithal to get out of my own way long enough to let the magic play out. I hope you'll do the same.
— Steph
The source of my own authority is a long story — and it's personal
MEET STEPH
I didn't come to this work because I was curious — I came because I was in a state. Specifically, I was on a bender after walking in on my hopelessly toxic then-boyfriend cheating on me in an exceptionally grotesque, in-your-face kind of way.
While he went off to rehab in shame, I spiraled alone in our condo. And somewhere between the drinking, the wailing, and the Ben & Jerry’s, I found my teacher.
I didn't know anything about Phil T. Mistlberger or his work. I just knew he was the latest trend my spiritual woo-woo friend had mentioned the week before, and I happened to remember his weird name (the T is for Teertha).
After tracking him down on a relationships podcast, I booked a private session — and at the end, he suggested I join his 16 week shadow work intensive, Conscious Relationship Training (CRT).
The decision was easy: I was skyrocketing in my career at the time and making more money than I'd ever seen, so spending two thousand dollars to punish (and possibly fix!) my boyfriend was a no-brainer. I was smugly confident he was the whole problem, and that I was a saint for putting up with him.
Spoiler alert:
I was wrong.
Over those 16 weeks, our explosive romance came to an appropriately messy conclusion, and I was afforded the opportunity to look — and really see — the unconscious patterns that were running my life and my relationships.
So I looked, with my whole self, and I saw.
And what I saw was...
g h a s t l y.
Everywhere I turned, there was just more me: every rejected aspect, every desperately fabricated part of my personality, every pattern I'd blamed on the wrongness of every partner I'd ever chosen.
I saw that for every experience I'd ever had, I was the only throughline. The only thing all my difficulties had in common was me.
Like jumping off a cliff
That realization was liberating, but it also left me wind-ravaged, with my stomach in my throat and the whole world hurtling toward me top speed. It was the kind of empowerment that found me weeping in my car a lot, raging to death metal and Dolly Parton — swinging from grief at the wasted years, to marveling at all the untapped potential.
I was finally vividly alive; I felt inspired, enraged, crushingly sad and utterly lovely — all at the same time. The existential floodgates were open, and I was hooked.
Those 16 weeks of CRT turned into hundreds, with countless hours of upper level work and teacher training before I began leading sessions in 2018. Around the same time, I surprised myself by being initiated into Phil's mystery school (Temple of Anubis) and going down an esoteric rabbit hole.
That's where things got strange. The combination of intensive self-discovery, undeniable magic, and relentless synchronicities quickly became too much. I was "losing my mind" — consciously and on purpose — and I didn't have the inner infrastructure to hold what I was encountering.
So I stepped back, and built my capacity to hold more of the fullness of life — and the magic of it too.
That's what I help people do today.
I've since attained the temple's Inner Order and a master's degree in Metaphysical Sciences — which I mention to emphasize that I see the world through a metaphysical lens, and my work reflects that. The spiritual dimension of personal growth isn't decorative for me, it's one of three load-bearing pillars.
The other two are body and mind. Body (read: nervous system) — whose capacity I had to build just to hold my reality — and mind (conscious + unconscious) — whose shadowy recesses I had to expose to see my reality in the first place. These two pillars form the basis of our programs and the Somatic Shadow Work method at Wholehearted Loving.
I live for the moment people realize they aren't limited to the confines of the defended, reactive, fearful version of themselves, and they glimpse something greater: an eternal and omnipresent source of power and support, conspiring for their benefit. That's what I'm here for — to help guide you to that Something Greater, inside and out.
If part of you recognizes this, and wants it — and doesn't mind my bluntly honest delivery — then we're probably going to get along just fine.
Proof of concept:
Ten years later, I am SO GLAD my old boyfriend did what he did, and that I listened when my woo-woo friend was prattling on about her spiritual crap. It was the Universe at play, in service of my highest good, leading me here — to my Work, my teacher, and my people.
I'm eternally grateful I had the wherewithal to get out of my own way long enough to let the magic play out. I hope you'll do the same.
— Steph
FIRST, SOME DEFINITIONS
Is honesty the best policy? Where's the line?
Most of us live in a near-perpetual state of falsehood: saying we're fine when we're not, faking enthusiasm or agreement, stuffing down our opinions, deflecting or dissociating from discomfort, and so on. We might live this way for good reasons (kindness, propriety, and connection), but also for more sinister reasons like fear and scarcity. There is another way, and it's often much simpler than you think.
Radical honesty is the practice of reporting what's happening in your mind, your body, and the world around you.
This is a relational practice, with other people, places, objects, and between parts of ourselves. As such, it needs more than just your honesty — it also asks for your care, and an increased capacity to sit with truths that don't match your own. In my 1:1 and group programs, you learn to manage your emotional response to someone else's emotions, and to field another person's truth without shutting down, flipping out, or dissociating.
DEFINITIONS FIRST
Radical honesty is the practice of reporting what's happening in your mind, your body, and the world around you.Â
Most of us live in a perpetual state of falsehood: pretending we're fine, faking enthusiasm, stuffing down our opinions, deflecting discomfort, and so on.
We live this way for good reasons like kindness and connection, and for other reasons like fear and scarcity. But there is another way, and it's often much simpler than you think.Â
Radical honesty is a relational practice with other people, places, objects, and between parts of ourselves.
This takes more than just your honesty — it also asks for your care, and capacity to sit with truth that doesn't match your own.
Working with me, you learn to manage your emotional response to someone else's emotions, and to field another person's truth without shutting down, flipping out, or dissociating.
Radical honesty does not mean blurting out every unfiltered thought (except in our sessions) or using honesty as a weapon, though both are likely stops along the path to an honest life. As much as possible, explore these in a space built for practice purposes, rather than in the high-stakes arena of your real-life relationships.
HOW THIS SHOWS UP IN REAL LIFE
Honesty comes in all shapes and sizes — and some of it's easy as pie.
Just as dishonesty ranges from tiny to middling to life-determining, honest alternatives range too. Like saying "I'll get back to you in five minutes" when "I'll get back to you" is truer, feels better, and would do just fine. Our assumptions about what's expected of us are often wrong, and in simple cases like that one, all we need is someone to point it out. But more deeper care and further self-exploration are required when the stakes are higher. For example:
- A parent and an adult child on opposite sides of politics or faith
- Telling aging parents you can't be the one to care for them
- Telling your partner that your desire for them has faded
- One of you wants children and the other doesn't
- Confronting a parent about harm you remember from childhood
- Telling a loved one you can't do what they need or want you to do
- A personal reckoning with your own sexuality, gender, or faith
- Telling someone you love that their addiction is a problem
- Admitting you no longer believe what your family or community does
- A family pulled apart over the loss of a family member
- Telling a close friend they've lost your trust
- Leaving a relationship that everyone expected to last
- Being honest with your child about something that's hard to hear
- Admitting you've outgrown your career, marriage, or home
For every one of these, there's someone on the other side of the equation living their own version of events — a parent, partner, child or friend with their own emotions and felt sense of what's real. Your commitment to radical honesty is also a commitment to compassion for yourself and others.
KEY: Radical honesty does not mean blurting out every unfiltered thought (except in our sessions) or using honesty as a weapon, though both are likely stops along the path to an honest life.
As much as possible, explore these in a space built for practice purposes, rather than in the high-stakes arena of your real-life relationships.
IN REAL LIFE
Honesty comes in all shapes and sizes — and some of it's as easy as pie.
Just as dishonesty ranges from tiny to middling to life-determining, the honest alternatives range just as much.Â
Like saying "I'll get back to you in five minutes" when "I'll get back to you" is more realistic, feels better, and would do just fine. In simple cases like this, all we need is someone to point out that our starting assumptions about what's expected of us are often wrong.
But when the stakes are higher, especially when there's an emotional charge or when livelihood or identity are involved, we require more care, broader context, and deeper self-exploration. For example:
- A parent and an adult child on opposite sides of politics or faith
- Telling aging parents you can't be the one to care for them
- Telling your partner that your desire for them has faded
- One of you wants children and the other doesn't
- Confronting a parent about harm you remember from childhood
- Telling a loved one you can't do what they need or want you to do
- A personal reckoning with your own sexuality, gender, or faith
- Telling someone you love that their addiction is a problem
- Admitting you no longer believe what your family or community does
- A family pulled apart over the loss of a family member
- Telling a close friend they've lost your trust
- Leaving a relationship that everyone expected to last
- Being honest with your child about something that's hard to hear
- Admitting you've outgrown your career, marriage, or home
For every one of these high-stakes examples, someone's on the other side of the equation living their own version of the experience — a parent, partner, child or friend with their own reactions and sense of what's real. Radical honesty means making room for all of it.
WHY THIS IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOU THINK
Honesty doesn't just change the conversation. It changes the signal that shapes your life.
The challenge with honesty arises largely in relationship to other people, because that's where most of our fears and projections live. It's much easier to feel "clear" alone on your meditation cushion, where the channel between you and Something Greater is cleaner and less distorted. The distortion is relational; it exists in the gap between who you really are and what you let others see.Â
Dishonesty adds distortion to the channel, in both directions — the signal from outside can't reach you clearly, and your own signal can't reach back out (as within, so without). Honesty clears the channel.
Life does not distinguish here. It meets you equally in your clarity and in your distortion — doors will or won't open, you'll manifest abundance or lack, you'll be handed opportunities or resistance, you'll experience synchronicities that "prove" you're on track or blocks that reinforce your limiting beliefs.Â
Conscious Relationship Training exists for group practice in this relational realm — live, with real people and tools to support your body through radical honesty and the activation that comes up. Working with me one-to-one is the private, more spiritual version. Either one is a good place to start.
WHY IT'SÂ SO CRUCIAL
Honesty doesn't just change the conversation. It changes the signal that shapes your life.
The challenge with this arises primarily in relationship to other people, because that's where most of our fears and projections live. That's why you can feel "clear" alone on your meditation cushion, where the channel between you and Something Greater is cleaner and less distorted. The distortion is relational — it exists in the gap between who you really are and what you let others see.Â
Dishonesty adds distortion to the channel, going both ways — the signal from outside can't reach you clearly, and your own signal can't reach back (as within, so without). Honesty clears the channel, which is crucial because:
Life meets you equally in your clarity and your distortion.
So, depending on your state, doors will open or they won't, you'll manifest abundance or lack, you'll be handed opportunities or resistance, and you'll experience synchronicities or blocks that prove you right either way.Â
For active practice in these relational realms, I offer Conscious Relationship Training live online — a closed group cohort twice a year, with real people and tools to support your body with the activation that comes up. Working with me 1:1 is the private and more spiritual version.
HOW TO WORK WITH ME
I reflect back what you can't yet see, and give you the tools to expand into possibility.
Most approaches help you manage your patterns. I'm more interested in what's underneath them — the unconscious material that's been quietly shaping your choices, relationships, and belief system.
The foundational principle here is:
Your inner and outer worlds are a co-creation under your influence.
Sessions unfold over at least three months with text and voice note support in between, and include conversation, somatic practices, applied shadow work, and a metaphysical mix of inner work, energetic work, and dream work. We aim for radical honesty about what you want for your life and relationships — and an action plan for what you can actually do about it. Â
Not ready for 1:1? Explore group programs at Wholehearted Loving →
HOW TO WORK WITH ME
The foundation:
Your inner and outer worlds are a co-creation under your influence.
Most approaches help you manage your patterns. I'm more interested in what's underneath them — the unconscious material that's been quietly shaping your choices, relationships, and belief system.Â
I reflect back what you can't yet see and help you expand into possibility.
Sessions unfold over at least three months, with text and voice note support in between, and include:
Conversation
Somatic practices
Applied shadow work
A metaphysical mix of:
Energetic work
Dream work
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We aim for radical honesty about who you are and what you want for your life and relationships — and an action plan for what you can actually do about it.
Not ready for 1:1?
Explore group programs at Wholehearted Loving →
"Stephanie is an actual person with actual guidance and insight." —LYNDAL
CREDENTIALS
I'm a trained facilitator and counsellor with over 20 years experience, leading Conscious Relationship Trainings since 2018. I hold a Master of Metaphysical Sciences, with an ordination, and am currently pursuing a Doctor of Divinity in Metaphysical Counselling. My education and experience also include business, computer programming and systems analysis — an unusual combination that turned out to be exactly what I needed to understand how people's systems are built, how they break, and what they need to transform. Learn more about my professional experience on LinkedIn.
A different approach
"Her approach is fundamentally different to other teachers and guides I've come across. She'll help you meet yourself with kindness, respect, and an unapologetically wicked sense of humour."
— LYNDAL
A powerful intuitive
"A powerful leader, an intuitive guide that I come to for grounded, loving advice and guidance. I trust Stephanie enough to come to her crying, laughing, screaming, or blisteringly mad — because I know she has the ability to hold space for whatever I can throw her way."
— JOEL
Transformative change
"Stephanie has a tremendous capacity to hold space for intense emotions and create a safe space for healing — an exceptional facilitator and transformational agent."
— ALEXANNDRE
CREDENTIALS
"Stephanie is an actual person with actual guidance and insight."
—LYNDAL
I'm a trained facilitator and counsellor with over 20 years experience, leading Conscious Relationship Trainings since 2018. I hold a Master of Metaphysical Sciences, with an ordination, and am now pursuing a Doctor of Divinity in Metaphysical Counselling.
My education and experience also include business, computer programming and systems analysis — an unusual combination that turned out to be exactly what I needed to understand how people's systems are built, how they break, and what they need to transform. Learn more about my professional experience on LinkedIn.
"Her approach is
fundamentally different to other teachers and guides I've come across. She'll help you meet yourself with kindness, respect, and an unapologetically wicked sense of humour."
— LYNDAL
"A powerful leader,
an intuitive guide that I come to for grounded, loving advice and guidance. I trust Stephanie enough to come to her crying, laughing, screaming, or blisteringly mad — because I know she has the ability to hold space for whatever I can throw her way."
— JOEL
"Stephanie has a
tremendous capacity to hold space for intense emotions and create a safe space for healing — an exceptional facilitator and transformational agent."
— ALEXANNDRE
STEPH HUNTER
STEPH HUNTER
Radical Honesty Coach & Metaphysical Counsellor · Wholehearted LovingÂ
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